tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24392128632136733772024-03-05T16:08:27.115-08:00How to be an InspirationLet's face it, severe disability is not going to be everyone's first choice of lifestyle, but if that's what you're stuck with then there has to be a funny side. Join me on the ups, downs and sheer bizarreness of life in a wheelchair, a family, and a society determined to make things difficult. Guaranteed to make you smile (and groan). A good read.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.comBlogger247125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-76713360219702003512014-09-12T06:39:00.002-07:002014-09-12T06:44:00.436-07:00Nursing A Grievance <div>
It has been a week or so of miscommunication, or rather, missed communication. Two different but parallel issues that pretty much sum up the frustrations of being dependent on other people doing their jobs so that you can do two of the absolute basics of life - go to the lavatory and go to sleep.</div>
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Three times a week, Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays, two district nurses come in the afternoon to help me go to the loo. You may imagine this involves hoists and slings, catheters and so on; in reality it involves pulling my legs forward until I'm at the edge of the wheelchair seat and passing a bottle. Not difficult but necessary. Knowing that the nurses are coming means that Polly is free to go to work or shopping or running on those days and doesn't feel she needs to dash back mid-afternoon (not that you can just dash back from a shift at Great Ormond Street Hospital or the Marsden or a Hospice). In my extensive experience the nurses who come are always (well nearly always) friendly and helpful and professional. Obviously we cancel the calls when we are on holiday.. </div>
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As mentioned in the last post we went to the New Forest for a week. When we returned we expected normal service to be resumed but on the first Tuesday back no one came. Never mind we thought, they've simply forgotten we were only going for one week. Polly rang them and left a message on their answering machine. Sorted.</div>
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On Thursday no one came. Fortunately Polly came home reasonably early. She rang again. This time she spoke to a human being. What, she asked, was the point of leaving a message on their answering machine if they weren't going to act on it. Apologies were made. Sorted.</div>
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Friday came, which was more than could be said for the district nurses. More phone calls, more apologies. Obviously there had been some sort of misunderstanding. Next week would be a fresh start. Definitely sorted.</div>
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The weekend passed in a mood of gloom as the boys realised that they would be going back to school shortly and that homework, of which for the whole of the summer they had denied all knowledge, needed to actually be done (or at least plausibly lost). On Monday Polly took them to the Spectrum Centre in Guildford for a final holiday treat of flumes and artificially generated waves. Summer was officially over.</div>
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On Tuesday the district nurses didn't arrive. I was annoyed. Polly was ballistic. When Polly is mad she puts aside her genuinely non-confrontational, friendly and accommodating persona and adopts her more fearsome Mrs Deal alter-ego. When she finally found a human being of appropriate seniority to talk to on the phone I could hear extracts of her side of the conversation all the way from the kitchen. Questions were asked - how could they miss FIVE calls when they had been contacted immediately after each missed visit? How can we plan day-to-day if we can't rely on them to do their job? Yes, they were welcome to take over the morning get-up call if they found finding fifteen minutes three afternoons a week too much. Did they realise that would involved up to two hours seven days a week instead. Did they remember they were supposed to be my care managers and that the three weekly calls were supposed to keep them abreast of my changing condition? Did they understand what a person in a wheelchair did when they didn't know when they'd next be able to go to the loo? They would restrict their fluid intake. Restricted fluid intake for people in wheelchairs inevitably leads to urinary tract infections. Is that what they wanted? Would they be happy to take on the additional nursing that would entail? </div>
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When the phone call end with a curt "Good, we'll expect to see someone on Thursday. Thank you for your help. Goodbye" Matty looked up from the computer he'd been sheltering behind, looked at me and said, "Wow Dad, she certainly went all Mrs Deal on their ass." I couldn't disagree.</div>
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On Thursday two district nurses arrived blissfully unaware that anything had gone wrong. They were friendly, helpful and professional as usual. It's not the nurses who are the problem it's the management structure and its inability to communicate when something unexpected occurs. You leave messages with machines or people and they seem to vanish into the ether. Too harsh? What do you think might happen when vital equipment breaks down?</div>
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Next time - A Matter of Mattresses.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-83988924504240004662014-08-25T06:15:00.001-07:002014-08-25T06:24:32.801-07:00The Policeman's BeltWe are just back from our holiday in Hampshire. We stayed in a cabin on the edge of the New Forest at a place called Shorefield near Milford-on-Sea. Door to door the journey should take only a little over two and a half hours, it took us nearly six. It would have taken longer if not for a policeman's belt.
The A3 is one of the arterial routes out of London: a six lane, high-speed series of fly-overs and underpasses funnelling traffic out to the M25 orbital motorway or onwards to Portsmouth with its ferry links to the continent. The road is packed with commuters, juggernauts, families on their way to Chessington World of Adventure, locals and a myriad of commercial vehicles all rushing to get where they are going at breakneck speed down unfeasibly narrow lanes and ominously dented crash barriers. It is, without doubt, one of the scariest roads in the South-East. At Tolworth the road dives into an underpass beneath a large roundabout and the hard-shoulder is replaced by concrete walls mere inches from the left-hand lane and the air is replaced by exhaust fumes and the thunderous echo of speeding internal combustion engines reverberating off those all-to-close walls. It was here, as we were being swept through the underpass at 60 MPH, that from beneath our car came the shrieking, clattering, deafening sound of metal on road surface and from behind a tail of sparks lighting up the carriageway. Polly reduced speed down to a crawl but it still sounded like a brick in a tumble-dryer and there was still a small firework display trailing behind. As vehicles screeched and swerved around us she pulled onto the small triangle of hatched white lines that marked the lanes merging from the roundabout above with the main duel carriageway exiting the tunnel heading south. Traffic was now screaming passed us on both our left and our right hand sides causing the car to vibrate and sway as it was buffeted by turbulence from high-sided vans and lorries.
Polly phoned the police and explained our predicament. No, we couldn't vacate the car and find a safe place to wait for assistance. The nearest safe place was a minimum of two lanes of high-speed traffic away and over a crash barrier. It would be tricky to get there with two children, an OAP and an electric wheelchair. The police dispatch operator said they'd send someone straight away. Sure enough, a few minutes of buttock-clenching fear later, a police van pulled up with reassuringly bright flashing blue lights to close off the lane behind us. <img src="webkit-fake-url://00ACBB70-FDF8-4CE6-887B-A919DBF88B5F/imagejpeg" />A quick glance under our vehicle told the police officer that our exhaust pipe had snapped, possibly caused by some of the debris that littered the underpass, and that was the reason we were parked where we were and not because we were extreme picnickers or something.
"It's scary here," he told Polly nervously, flinching as a juggernaut whipped by. "Very scary. I think I'll call traffic. They're equipped for this kind of thing. Maybe they'll be able to tie your exhaust pipe up. I'll wait in my van until they get here." Soon, two traffic police cars arrived and the officers assessed the situation. They assured Polly she had done exactly the right thing and then set about trying to temporarily fix things. Eventually an officer leaned in the window.
"We've tied the exhaust pipe up," he said. "It should hold until we can get you somewhere safe. We didn't have any wire so I've used my belt. My colleague's belt is plastic so it would melt but mine is leather. Good job I had a hearty breakfast or me trousers would be down around me knees. Now we'll stop the traffic so you can get up to speed. Follow us and we'll lead you to a safe place to wait for the AA. Then can I have my belt back, please?"
We were escorted off the A3 by the police. You could see passing drivers wondering what awful crime we had committed. The traffic police led us to a garage forecourt and the policeman retrieved his slightly singed leather belt. We waved them off and settled down to await the AA who arrived after about half an hour. The AA man explained that the exhaust had broken at a particularly tricky place and because our van is adapted to carry a wheelchair the exhaust is nonstandard, it having been customised to allow for a lower floor. In short, he couldn't fix it. Instead he tied it up, this time with wire, not a belt, and led us to the local Kwik-Fit in Surbiton.
Because the exhaust is nonstandard Kwik-Fit couldn't just plonk a new one under the car. We have to order a completely new customised unit from a specialist manufacturer. Shouldn't take more than a week or so. The man said he would try to make a temporary mend using a cuff he'd order from the main supplier. It would take an hour or so to arrive so we settled down in their waiting room and played with the fancy drinks machine while we waited. Eventually the part arrived and the Kwik-Fit man got to work bodging a fix. It took a little while but, at last, the man announced that he and his colleague had engineered a solution that held the two bits of exhaust pipe together and that it should last through our holiday and until a new complete unit could be made and fitted. We braced ourselves for the bill for this impromptu piece of automotive construction. "No charge," said the man cheerfully. "Have it on us. Enjoy your holiday." It might not be true that you can't get quicker than a Kwik-Fit fitter but you certainly can't find nicer. Thank you Kwik-Fit, Surbiton. And if you see a police traffic officer with a burnt leather belt then please give him a wave.
Thank you for reading.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-11878715733030195802014-08-08T09:33:00.000-07:002014-08-08T09:33:04.630-07:00Making A Move - Part OneIf you have been a follower of this blog for any length of time you will know that in 2011 we moved to a new house. Previously we had been living in a two bedroom ground floor flat with a small garden but with two growing boys and the paraphernalia that comes with disability it was becoming a bit of a squeeze, to say the least. It took the intervention of our MP, Tom Brake and our GP, Dr T as well as social services, the district nurses and letters from a specialist doctor at Kings' Hospital to eventually get things moving, so to speak. And, of course, an Occupational Therapist, someone with a professional understanding of disability and the appropriate equipment and housing needs required by us pesky disabled folk.<br />
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But, just in case you think the process was a smooth one, let tell you a story. We had been assigned an OT, let's call him Mike for the purposes of this blog. Mike was a charming man whose job, in our case, was to help us find suitable accommodation. He was full of ideas and had a lot of sympathy for our position and so set about finding us somewhere with at least three bedrooms. Three bedrooms was his mantra. I began to worry exactly how much of a grasp of our situation he actually had when he took us to view what he considered to be an ideal prospective home. It was a bungalow in Sutton, located directly behind the High Street at the end of a cul-de-sac. You could go out of the front door and be in Asda within thirty seconds. Of course, you had to share your parking slot not only with the local residents but also with the delivery lorries for the local stores. The bungalow had a tiny garden and was overlooked by blocks of flats on all sides. You could only see the sky if you looked directly up and there was an odour of rubbish emanating from the communal bins some 30 feet away but, as Mike cheerfully reminded us, the bungalow had three bedrooms.<br />
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Inside there was a combination kitchen cum living room which was, in total, about two thirds the size of our current living room. The ceiling was a kind of nicotine mustard yellow from, well, nicotine it appeared - and smelt. Along the hallway was a bathroom that I pointed out that I couldn't get the wheelchair to fit in. Next to it was a small cupboard that Mike suggested we could knock through to make more room. Also along the hallway were the three, much trumpeted, bedrooms. I couldn't get into any of them because the angles were too tight but even from the doorways I could see that each bedroom was smaller than either of our already too small current bedrooms. Mike suggested, after he had assessed the situation, that if I backed into the smaller of the bedrooms first I could get the angle to enter the slightly larger one if we pushed the bed into the corner and took out the wardrobe. Instead I reversed back down the narrow hall to the only place I could turn around, the kitchen cum living room. I could hear Polly reassuring the current occupant that we really didn't mind the mess and absolutely understood how difficult it could be keeping a home clean.<br />
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Polly and I retreated to a local cafe (about ninety seconds away, very convenient) to weigh up the pros and cons. We'd agreed to meet Mike to give him our impressions there in a few minutes time. The pros, we decided, were good access to the shops. The cons were too many to list. When Mike arrived, grinning cheerfully, he said, "There you go, three bedrooms. Sorted."<br />
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As politely as I could I pointed out that yes, technically the bungalow had three bedrooms but that, in actuality, the bungalow was considerably smaller than our current flat and that what we really needed was more space. Mike was a little put out. "It has three bedrooms," he said, firmly. "You said you needed three bedrooms." I looked to Polly, hopelessly. "I think what Steve is trying to say," explained Polly, "is that, yes, we need three bedrooms but that of those three bedrooms at least one of them has to be large enough to get the wheelchair into as well as the bed and the hoist and, perhaps, a chest-of-draws." "Ah," said Mike, triumphantly. "I've thought of that. We can knock through into that cupboard next to the bathroom!" "The same cupboard we were going to knock through so I could get into the bathroom?" I asked doubtfully. "It's a linen cupboard - not the bloody Tardis." Ignoring my sarcasm Mike looked sceptically at my wheelchair. "That's a mighty big chair," he said. "It's not that big," I protested. "It fits in a car. It fits in lifts. It's not a Humvee." "Does it now," mused Mike. "Does it what?" "Fit in a lift." "Absolutely," I assured him. "Up and down in them all the time." With that Mike whipped out a tape-measure and wrote down the dimensions of my chair.<br />
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Next time... Why it is important to understand how a wheelchair works.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-16879372805710637682014-08-03T10:20:00.000-07:002014-08-03T10:23:56.600-07:00Faulty ConnectionsThank you to everyone who has welcomed my return to blogging, I've appreciated every comment, like, repost and retweet. I'm glad to be back, after all, if Li wasn't blogging I wouldn't be able to ask you this...<br />
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What, I ask you, would you consider to be the minimum requirements, the prerequisites, for a wheelchair repair engineer? An encyclopaedic knowledge of different kinds of wheelchairs? A familiarity with the various faults that wheelchairs can develop? A well equipped toolkit so you can fix the fault you have cannily discerned and identified? You'd think so, wouldn't you. Let me disabuse you of these foolish notions.<br />
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My wheelchair has electrically powered leg-rests. Each leg-rest can be adjusted independently using a setting on my hand-controller. For a few months there has been a fault on the right side leg-rest whereby whenever it is used it causes a short-circuit that locks up the controller and flashes up an error message. This is particularly annoying because it is very easy to accidentally find yourself knocking the joystick when cycling through the various options, particularly when trying to find recline or tilt, suddenly finding the chair disabled. To reset you have to switch off the chair, switch it back on, press the Mode button and cycle through the options again. Not a critical fault but an annoying one nonetheless.<br />
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We arranged for an engineer to visit from the company that has the local wheelchair repair contract on Tuesday morning. Tuesday morning was an ideal time because I have extended hours on the BiPap those mornings and am therefore not using the wheelchair. The engineer didn't come in the morning as arranged, he came in the afternoon instead.
I demonstrated the problem to him. He sucked air through his teeth in the traditional manner and said "I wonder why that happens?" At this point Polly arrived and pointed to the exposed wires on the connecting cable. "Hmm," said the repairman. "I'll need a soldering iron." He was the expert so we nodded encouragingly. "I haven't got a soldering iron." Of course he didn't. After all, why would a repairer of electric wheelchairs ever need such an exotic tool? He examined the wires, unwrapping the worn electrical tape that had left them exposed and therefore able to touch each other. "The problem is these wires," he explained knowledgeably. Polly's eyes almost disappeared as they rolled in their sockets. "They need connecting." "I have a soldering iron," said
Polly, helpfully. A slightly panicked look came onto his face. "But I don't think I've got any solder." Was that relief I saw in the young man's eyes? "We could pop down the road to the hardware store and get some," she suggested. At that point the repairman mumbled something about getting the right stuff from the depot. He then rewrapped the wires in the decidedly non-sticky electrical tape he had removed originally and asked me if that had fixed the problem. It hadn't. "Perhaps some fresh tape might make it more insulated," wondered Polly. "Err... I haven't got any with me."
Later, with the engineer safely away and promising to arrange a return appointment, Polly examined the wires carefully and twisted the appropriate ones together. She found a roll of gaffer-tape and isolated each of the wires, wrapping them individually. Then, with a cable-tie, she attached the cable safely to the appropriate part of the leg-rest. It took less than five minutes and not a drop of solder before the fault was fixed. Meanwhile, we're still waiting for the company to contact us and make a return appointment. I imagine the young man is looking at the mysterious tool in his tool-kit and wondering why he needs a screwdriver that gets so hot at one end.
Thank you for reading.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-46431345140249060982014-07-31T06:59:00.000-07:002014-07-31T07:04:06.357-07:00Hear Hear!Over recent years I have noticed something peculiar about people. They all mumble. They miss out bits of words. Children are the worst, what with their squeaky high-pitched incomprehensible rambling. Women are almost as bad. People in groups produce a wall of unintelligible and impenetrable sound. The whole world needs elocution lessons. Or...
Just possibly it might be my hearing. To rule out this absurd possibility I recently attended the Audiology clinic at my local hospital. It turns out that 50% of us with Facioscapulohumeral muscular dystrophy have high frequency hearing loss. Guess which 50% I fall into. The charming audiologist placed headphones over my ears and played various sounds into each of my ears while I pressed a button if I heard anything. Often I heard burps and rumbles and I dutifully pressed away. Sometimes the machine wasn't working and I heard nothing. Eventually the audiologist used her computer to generate a graph to represent my bat-like hearing.
"This line," she said, indicating a straight red line crossing the chart, "would represent perfect hearing. This blue line is you." For about two thirds of the way across the chart the blue line wobbled at fractionally below the ideal red line. Not too shabby. Unfortunately, at the final third - the third representing the higher frequencies - the line plummeted down the graph like an unsuccessful attempt at hang-gliding off Beachy Head.
To remedy the situation the audiologist produced two shiny little hearing-aids and plugged them into her computer. "There," she said. "I've programmed them to compensate for the high frequencies you've lost." With that she inserted the plastic tube bit into my ear and turned them on. "You'll need to practice wearing them. It takes a while for the brain to process frequencies it hasn't heard for a while."
This did indeed turn out to be the case. For the next few days my brain ascribed the same significance to all high-frequency sounds. The squeak of my tyres on the floor was accorded the same auditory status as peoples voices. The sound of a distant lawn mower the same as the television. Worst of all, our budgerigar, Cato, twittered and tweeted at the apparent same volume of a commercial airliner taking off. Eventually though my brain began to work out which sounds had significance and which could be safely relegated to background noise and a kind of sonic harmony was achieved.
A few weeks later I had an appointment with the audiology consultant who was positively thrilled to discover there was a link between FSHD and high-frequency hearing loss. "Well, I've learned something new today," she said, delighted. She also suggested that the hearing-aids should have their programming tweaked now that my brain had adjusted to them so as to maximise their effectiveness. This was duly done but the result means that for the last couple of days the budgie has sounded like he's been given a megaphone.
One brilliant thing though was that we had taken Sam, now 10, with us. On our way to the clinic we passed the League of Friends' cafeteria. "The League of Friends," mused Sam. "Does that mean it's run by superheroes?" "Yes," replied Polly. "All of them cunningly disguised as elderly ladies wearing tabards."
Thank you for reading. If you choose to comment please write quietly and annunciate clearly. Thank you. Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-5626779886509999642014-07-30T13:01:00.000-07:002014-07-30T13:01:40.121-07:00How To Be An Inspiration is BACK!
'When are you going to start writing your blog again?' a number of people have asked me lately. This, I have decided, is a not unreasonable question. I stopped writing the blog because it had become physically very difficult to type the words needed to express myself satisfactorily. Things though have changed a bit since my last entry in 2011 and quite a lot since I stopped regularly updating in 2010. I'm still using an iPad (an iPad Air actually) but I have discovered that if I use a longish stylus, a particular type of stand, and a non-slip mat I can position my hand in such a way that allows me to pick out letters, one a a time, but at a reasonable speed. So... I hear by announce that, until such time that things change again, the How To Be An Inspiration blog is back. Tell your friends, your relatives, your therapist.
Why now?
Polly, the light of my life, the button on my pajamas, the mother of my children, has decided that aside from working as a Giggle Doctor (the new name for Clown Doctor), being a children's entertainer, a parent to a teenager and a ten year-old, looking after me and my many many needs, and digging an allotment, that she wants to do a degree. She has signed up with the Open University and starts in September. Humbled by this prodigious workload I decided to start writing again, even if I could only write a few words at a time. I'm currently 35,000 words into my first novel.
I've missed writing this blog - stupid things keep happening to me that I think will make you laugh or yell in frustration, either way I hope they will entertain.
I'll be back soon. Thank you for reading.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-83778183757738867492011-07-20T11:45:00.000-07:002011-07-20T11:48:57.640-07:00Fifty and CountingWelcome to a 50th birthday celebratory blog posting written by me, using my trusty old stylus and an iPad. Extraordinary as it may seem I have made it to 50. There have been a number of occasions over the last fifteen or so years when that achievement had seemed a trifle optimistic and so it was with some relief that the 13th of July arrived without the accompanying sound of sirens and the flashing of blue lights. In fact the bulk of the day passed uneventfully what with the children at school and Polly having an appointment at the hairdressers. I had been told that my mother-in-law, Pam, had booked a table at a local Harvester and that we were all going out for a meal that evening. I was a little suspicious of this because Polly had put out socks for me to wear and so I suspected we were going somewhere slightly more upmarket, Pizza Express perhaps. <br /><br />As we turned off Wimbledon Park Side I had an inkling that we were heading upmarket of even Pizza Express and that our destination was Cannizarro House, the hotel where Polly and I had spent the first night of our honeymoon nearly 18 years ago. On that occasion our little red self-drive hired van had squeezed between S class Mercedes and Porches to take pride of place opposite of the main entrance. This time our VW Caddy looked slightly less incongruous but I was grateful Polly had had the car cleaned recently. She apologised for the deceit and hoped I wasn't too disappointed that I would not be availing myself of an all you can eat salad bar. In fact, she explained, we were meeting Pam here for a drink and then she would take the boys on for a burger leaving us to have a cosy, intimate meal for two. (Polly and me that is, not Pam and me. That would be weird under the circumstances.)<br /><br />On entering the hotel we were led by a member of staff away from the main dining room and through a private dining room laid out for a large private do and on to a patio overlooking the park. It was at that exact moment that I realised I had been throughly suckered for there before me was my entire family. My mother, whom I'd been told I would be seeing next week, was there. My brothers were there and both my aunts were there. All my nephews were there. Most surprisingly my sister Helena was there when she really should have been in Texas. She, Andrew and her two boys had all flown in especially. <br /><br />We were served canapés on the patio and then retired to our dining room where we were served a pork and cherry pate followed by cannon of Romney Marsh lamb. We finished up with a chocolate birthday cake (with 5 symbolic candles) and petit fours. By the time coffee was served I was sated. It was a fabulous evening and I greatly appreciate the effort that was made on my behalf.<br /><br />Oh, and in case you are interested, among my gifts I received the promise of a new flat screen TV and a genuine little apple tree already growing apples.<br /><br />On Saturday Polly arranged a drop in birthday and house warming party. She had cooked enough chilli to feed an army laying siege to the Alamo, a greenhouse full of salad, a gallon or so of Pimms and three huge cakes. I sincerely hoped people would turn up or my choice of meals was going to be somewhat limited in the forseeable future. Thankfully people did come, many bringing plants for the garden including, to my delight, an ornamental Japanese tree, an Olive tree and a vine. We made my friends Paul and Harvey plant the trees because they were dressed in kilts and it was therefore both funny and useful. <br /><br />I had a great 50th birthday. Thank you so much everyone who made it special.<br /><br />Next we are off on holiday. Not to Wales and the rain but to Cypress and the Mediterranean sunshine. All we need to do is to get from Carshalton to Polis via Gatwick and Paphos with two children, my mother-in-law, a large electric wheelchair and enough medical equipment for a small respiratory ward. What could possibly stand between me and a relaxing holiday? I will let you know.<br /><br />Thanks for reading.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-4660292337562212972011-06-07T09:09:00.000-07:002011-06-07T09:12:50.060-07:00The Right MoveRegular readers of Quicksketch’s ‘How to be an inspiration’ blog may be familiar with a couple of lads that shared his childhood with him. May I introduce my self as being one of those two boys and I go under the blog moniker of ‘Rock God’ although the name that my mother gave me was Paul.<br /> <br />I imagine that many of you have become concerned that Quicksketch or ‘Stephen’ as his mother likes to refer to him when he’s in the dog house has not put pen to internet paper for over 8 months now and you may by now be thinking the worst.<br /> <br />Can I right from the very outset reassure you that Stephen is still very much with us and has plenty of stories yet to tell.<br /> <br />However; as you will undoubtedly be aware from this blog Stephen’s condition has begun taking a more aggressive toll on his ability to undertake many of the day to day tasks that most us take for granted. This sadly includes Stephen’s ability to write.<br /> <br />Although with the aid of an Ipad and a stylus he is still able to correspond in way of e-mail, the time it would take to construct this blog would be prohibitive as well as exhausting. Although his creative mind is as sharp and witty as ever his physical prowess is now considerably limited to short e-mail sentences.<br /> <br />Stephen’s writing style also prevents him from just kicking back and reciting his beloved words of knowledge as he likes to see the written word unravel in front of him. Well, that’s his excuse any way. Personally I can well see him reclining in his boudoir, sipping champagne and nibbling on the occasional goat hoof whilst pontificating words of wisdom to a bespectacled sycophant.<br /> <br />This being said it was brought to Stephen’s attention that his loyal readers were already in a state of withdrawal and that all those that don’t know him personally might begin to suspect that he may have gone and fallen off this mortal coil.<br /> <br />And so finally he allowed me the privilege of penning a few short words just to keep you loyal readers informed of the proceedings in the lives of the Quicksketch family.<br /> <br />The biggest piece of news is that the council of ‘wherever’ have finally got their oversized thumbs out of their collective rear ends and have granted the family new housing.<br /> <br />By new housing I mean a brand spanking new three bedroom house that is specifically equipped for the disabled including proper hoists and a lift that will allow Stephen the luxury of going upstairs to bed (myself and fellow childhood friend Darren spent a happy afternoon going up and down in this I can assure you, although we were informed by Stephen’s wife that the majority of those that had enjoyed this experience thus were actually children).<br /> <br />The house has a brand new purpose built kitchen with work tops at a lower level so that Stephen if he is inclined can actually reach things (their previous kitchen work tops were so high I had to step on tip toe and I am nearly six foot tall).<br /> <br />There are two bathrooms that will afford both Stephen and Polly the luxury (my wife would site this as a necessity) of having a long soak in a bath. It also means that Polly and the boys will be able to get themselves ready at the same time as Stephen and he will no longer have to wait until they are done with their ablutions.<br /> <br />The best part of the house is a large living room that has a magnificent view of their new garden. Yes, QS will be able to sit and enjoy the grounds of his very own estate.<br /> <br />This family have never asked for anything from anybody. Both Stephen and Polly have worked hard all their adult lives and continue to do so. They have paid their taxes and have never expected or asked for hand outs. Personally I think it is a disgrace that they have had to wait for so long for the one thing that they have needed a bit of a hand with and they certainly didn’t ask for anything that millions of people in the UK take for granted. But that noise is just me falling off of my soap box again.<br /> <br />Anyway, Darren and I were well excited with the new family dwelling and we were doubly impressed as always at how Polly held all the strands together (she took no prisoners and greeted us on the door step with tools and instructions…we had a happy afternoon dismantling things, something we do best).<br /> <br />God willing this new abode will make life considerably easier for the family and you never know, it might inspire QS to consider dictating his memoirs to a willing scribe.<br /> <br />With his blessing I will pop by from time to time and keep you up to date with what is going on in our favourite author’s world. Just please be patient, I live in another part of the country to Stephen and so I don’t have as much contact as I should or want. So please just drop in from time to time to see if anything new is up.<br /> <br />On Stephen & Polly’s behalf, thanks for your interest, concern and if you are so inclined prayers.<br /> <br />RG<br /> <br /> Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-40163679473405394842010-10-04T07:06:00.000-07:002010-10-04T07:09:58.011-07:00They Call Me Mellow YellowAnother reason for my summer silence was that I turned an unnatural colour. It was August, a week before we were due to go on holiday to Wales and the day before we were going to see the play Anne Boleyn at the Globe Theatre. Polly came home from work and asked me if I knew I was a shade of yellow. I pointed out that she was wearing a pair of lemon yellow shorts and that the sun was just reflecting off them. Yes, said Polly dryly, that's probably it, but just in case we'll pop up to the hospital on the off chance that it's not caused by my trousers.<br /><br />Many hours later a doctor was trying to admit me to St Helier hospital because she was a bit concerned about some markers in my blood. After some tense negotiations she let me go home on the understanding that I returned first thing in the morning for further tests. But we have tickets to see Anne Boleyn at Shakespeare's Globe Theatre, I wailed. The doctor just sighed and said "you've gone yellow, Mr Deal. You have jaundice. Don't you think it's in your own best interest to find out why?"<br /><br />The next day, despite my best efforts, they admitted me. I tried to explain that I am ill-suited to hospitals but the consultant dismissed my concerns with an airy wave of a manicured hand. "The pretty little nurses will look after you," he didn't quite say but might as well have done. The pretty little nurses were slightly less confidant when faced with my BiPap, wheelchair and need for hoisting, a profiling bed and an air-mattress. They looked at Polly and said, "You won't be leaving, will you?"<br /><br />They wanted to stick me in a scanner so they could look at my liver but soon realised that this would be complicated in the extreme because I can't lie flat on my back without suffocating. The slightly less confident consultant agreed to try an ultra-sound, blithely unconcerned that the technician would have to achieve this while I stayed in my wheelchair. Unsurprisingly the results were inconclusive. <br /><br />I spent an unhappy night plugged into a drip feeding some kind of antibiotic into my vein. The preceding two hours it had taken to get me in to the bed convinced the nursing staff and the more junior doctors that I would be better off at home since there was not an awful lot they could actually do for me. The consensus was that a gall stone had broken up and passed through my liver but since they weren't about to risk giving me a general anaesthetic so they could have a poke around they couldn't be 100% certain. Eventually the almighty consultant was persuaded by his underlings that I should be allowed to go home on condition that my GP organised regular blood tests. I fled to the car park still wearing my hospital gown. <br /><br />Whatever was going on in my liver took a while to clear up because the markers in my blood that concerned the doctors remained stubbornly high for what seemed like a long time. I suffered some minor discomfort and felt a bit run down, missed a play, but, on the whole, reckon I got off relatively lightly. <br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-30953759199655286592010-09-28T04:32:00.000-07:002010-09-28T04:35:09.091-07:00Return Of The BloggerI'm back.<br /><br />Thank you for your patience. It's been a long, and for the most part pleasant, summer and I feel I owe an explanation for my absence from the blogosphere for it's entirety. Way too much has happened for me to cover in one post but I'll give a brief summary here and expand on details as time and my typing allow.<br /><br />I left you back in June because the long decline in my dexterity finally reached a kind of tipping point and my typing became so unreliable, erratic and difficult to perform that anything otter than essential email communication became all but impossible. I have not yet found a satisfactory remedy for this but I have purchased an iPad which, with it's superior touchscreen keyboard, helps a little. It then took more time to find a suitable, but hugely expensive, stylus with which to poke at it with because my fingers are no longer up to the job. I missed blogging but the longer I left it the more things kept happening and less I felt able to catch up. Consider this post a kind of bull being taken my the horns sort of thing. I'm getting back in the saddle and mixing metaphors once more. <br /><br />You may remember that long ago we started the long process of being rehoused which resulted in a slightly surreal meeting with, and letter from our MP, Tom Brake. (See Cometh The Man back in March.) Well the wheels ground awful slow but we were at last notified of a new development being built that includes wheelchair accessible accommodation complete with through lifts to move users up and down between floors. We were told, unofficially, that we were 'pencilled in' for one of these desirable properties. For weeks and then months we drove past the development and watched the walls going up and the roof being tiled. At least one extra bedroom was on offer as well as an extra bathroom and more space generally. All ideal. A few weeks ago an Occupational Therapist arrived to discuss our specific needs; hoists, bathroom adaptations and the like. He took notes, measured the wheelchair and then disappeared back to OT Land. Days passed. Then we received a phone call from him to say that lift that was being installed was too small to take my wheelchair. The lift shaft had been built into the fabric of the house and it was too late to change it. We wouldn't be moving after all. <br /><br />We contacted Tom Brake again and stiff letters are being written but in the current climate of cuts it seems unlikely that new housing will get built in the foreseeable future. It seems a pity that no one thought to wonder what kind of wheelchairs might or might not fit in the house before they built them. I suppose they didn't want to waste precious space. <br /><br />I will call it a day for now. Next time I'll tell you how I went yellow in August and ended up in hospital. Thanks for reading.<br /><br />Until next time. (Soon, I hope.)Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-27875935034726703652010-06-15T08:21:00.000-07:002010-06-15T08:32:10.001-07:00And So To BedI'm writing this at 10.30pm which is well past my bedtime. Things were going so well. It had been a busy and fun weekend; we'd had the local carnival on Saturday where the boys had gone on the Ghost Train and climbed inside inflatable plastic balls to roll around a huge paddling pool. We'd watched reluctant birds of prey take part in a falconry display like sulky teenagers begrudgingly performing their party piece at the increasingly irate behest of their parent. We'd watched marching bands and cheerleaders put on displays helped and hindered by an intermittent fault on the PA. All jolly good fun. On Sunday the boys and I watched Polly run a 10k race around and around our local park which took up 65 minutes and 31 seconds of a sunny morning. The race was billed as a fun run which conjures up images of people dressed as Buzz Lightyear jogging alongside groups of firemen chained together waving buckets to collect coins for kittens stuck up trees. Forget that. This turned out to be an excuse for the local running club to put themselves through their paces under race conditions. There was a lot of Lycra on display. The male winner whizzed home in just 31 minutes and 39 seconds. Polly came in a very respectable mere 15 minutes after the fastest female. <br /><br />Now the reason I tell you all this so past my bedtime is because I am awaiting an engineer to come and repair the hoist in the bedroom. The carers had come as usual to lay me down to rest and we were at the final stage of hoisting me from the wheelchair into the bed. The hoist, after some coaxing, lifted me airborne and over to the bed. What it would not do was to lower me down on to the aforementioned bed. I was left hovering like a fatigued Thunderbirds puppet two feet above my mattress. No amount of button pressing had any effect. The emergency release cord had mysteriously disappeared so I had no alternative but to dangle helplessly while Polly and the carers tried turning the power on and off and swinging me around a bit in an attempt to unstick whatever was stuck. After a few minutes I was beginning to feel distinctly uncomfortable, scrunched up in the sling as if I was a particularly large and unappealing fisherman's catch of the day. <br /><br />Eventually, just at the point where I was considering having the straps of the sling cut through so as to allow me to tumble down on to the bed with a hope that the resulting dislocation of joints wouldn't be too painful, I had a brainwave. My super-duper wheelchair is capable of raising up several feet in the air. By carefully moving the hoist and therefore myself over the chair and by me performing a kind of wriggling contortionist act as the carers eased the sling off around me I would only need to fall inches. With a defiance of health and safety and with a bodily dexterity that would surely have earned me a place in the semi-finals of Britain's Got Talent I fell gracefully in to my risen wheelchair seat. Meanwhile Polly rang the emergency engineer. <br /><br />The next day. . . <br /><br />Well, the engineer came at 11.00pm, cheerfully declaring that he had had one foot in the bath when his supervisor rang. Apparently a previous engineer had fitted the strap back to front causing the whole kit and caboodle to get tangled up. It took him 20 minutes to undo the mess. It took Polly a further 20 minutes to transfer me to bed on her own, the carers having long since departed. <br /><br />At least the emergency engineer turned up quickly and fixed the problem efficiently and without a fuss, unlike another company who have a contract to maintain my wheelchair. More details forthwith. <br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-59169516807742613042010-06-10T12:02:00.000-07:002010-06-10T12:05:36.764-07:00Watch The BirdieOnce again Polly and I dragged ourselves over the speed-bump strewn roads of South London for me to attend the Lind clinic at the Royal Brompton Hospital. Once there, and having located one of the rare and obscenely expensive parking spaces, Polly vanished to have coffee with a clown doctor friend who lives conveniently nearby, pointing out that she hadn't taken a day off from working in a hospital to spend it sitting in another hospital, especially as she wasn't being paid. I sat reading and patiently went through the whole blood-letting experience so my blood gases could be analysed. Sometime later I was seen by a stereotypically efficient German doctor who informed me that my CO2 levels had fallen satisfactorily and that they won't need to see me again for a whole year. Polly reappeared and we stop-started our way back through the London rush hour just in time to take Sam to his first ever Beavers meeting. <br /><br />I am, of course, delighted that all that faffing about in March when I had to stay at the RBH has paid off and that the changes of masks and BiPap settings have achieved what they set out to do, namely make me feel better. It is a slightly unsettling experience to be in a position where at least one aspect of my condition is improving rather than spiralling ever downwards. It is my ambition to confound all those health professionals who anticipate the worse. Viva Stephen! <br /><br />On a completely different subject altogether, Polly, as you may remember if you have been paying attention, has spent months renovating my sisters house in Surrey while my sister runs what's left of the global oil industry. The house is still looking for a tenant and has a couple of agencies squabbling over who should manage the property. Last week we got a phone call from one of them to say that a bird had flown down the chimney and expired in the living room. “It's made a bit of a mess, “ they said. Sighing, Polly made her way to the house armed with some cleaning equipment to discover just how much mess a trapped magpie can make. It turns out that it makes a lot. She phoned me to say that the house looked like a scene from CSI Surrey. “What should I do with the. . . er. . . body?” she asked. I suggested she put it in a plastic bag. It was only on the way home that Polly realised the irony. She'd interred the magpie in a Sainbury's Bag for Life. <br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-51851331586627285932010-06-01T12:43:00.000-07:002010-06-01T12:46:48.258-07:00The Whole ToothIt is half term already and it seems as if the boys have hardly been at school since Easter what with in-service training days, bank holidays and elections. To compensate for the lack of orthodox education we have enrolled the boys in a couple of courses at a local theatre. Today Matty learned to be a stuntman taught by someone who worked on Sherlock Holmes. He came home confidant in his ability to be zapped by Harry Potter or to burst through a wall made of foam blocks. Tomorrow Sam is going to learn African drumming which given his complete lack of rhythm when playing Lego Rockstar on the PS3 might present his teacher with a bit of a problem. Sam has discovered that by hitting any random drum in any random order very very fast can get him a higher score than his equally tuneless brother. <br /><br />I celebrated half term with a visit to a rather jolly dentist who poked and prodded and declared all well except for a dodgy wisdom tooth which needs x-raying with a view to having something done to it. I have to go back in a couple of weeks. Next time though it will be without Sam being an aeroplane around the surgery. <br /><br />Right, I'm off to watch dancing dogs on Britain's Got Talent.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-49394580657642505912010-05-21T12:30:00.000-07:002010-05-21T12:35:01.679-07:00Say It LoudI am fully recovered from my visit to planet Noro I am pleased to say. Thank you for all the messages of sympathy and I'm sorry if you have suffered similarly.<br /><br />Yesterday Nina, the speech and communication specialist, came for another visit. During our conversation last week I had mentioned that I often have difficulty making myself heard in noisy environments because I am unable to project my voice loudly enough. Nina was excited because she had a solution to this problem and this week she had brought with her a plastic case containing a voice amplifier. The device was about the size of an old fashioned Sony Walkman and came with a transdermal (throat) microphone. The EchoVoice has a built in speaker, an on/off switch and a volume control and that's pretty much it. The idea is that you can speak at a low volume and the device amplifies the voice through the speaker. Simple.<br /><br />Unfortunately not only is the device the size of a Sony Walkman it also looks like it was designed by Amstrad and built in the 1980s being made primarily of beige plastic and with a speaker that wouldn't have been out of place in a transistor radio. As soon as I turned the volume up to a useful level my voice distorted as if it were being fed through a guitar fuzz box. It would be perfect if I wanted to announce the 2.37 from Paddington and not want anyone to understand but not so good for a chat in the school playground. Nina, who had tested the EchoVoice in her office, was disappointed by the reality in the field. I sounded like a rather breathy Dalek. Unfortunately not a very loud one. <br /><br />Nina left to see if she would have more luck finding something to speed up my typing. I'll let you know how we get on.<br /><br />Until next time...Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-6747564649190893372010-05-12T09:56:00.000-07:002010-05-12T10:01:58.596-07:00Sick And TiredIf you are unfamiliar with the term Norovirus you are exceedingly fortunate. I mention this because I am now on more than nodding terms with the little packets of DNA and RNA wrapped in protein. The last few days have not been particularly pleasant. I admit that I am self-diagnosing here, and I may be infected with a distant cousin of Noro but since my carers inform me that another of their clients has had the virus I think I'm justified at pointing the finger at the micro-parcel of misery. <br /><br />Sickness and wheelchairs are not an ideal combination in anyone's book. I'm fortunate that I've had only a relatively mild case but it has still been distinctly grim. I'm over the worse but still feel a little delicate. <br /><br />Today I had a visit from a Speech and Communications specialist called Nina who came to assess me. You will be surprised to hear that I do, in fact, have the ability to communicate but Nina plans to help me do it better. She is looking into technology that might help speed up my typing and also a system that could help me communicate in noisy environments. We will be meeting again next week. I will, of course, let you know how it goes.<br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-71821457233924170812010-05-09T08:03:00.000-07:002010-05-09T08:05:49.278-07:00Birthday Boy and Quiz NightSaturday was Sam's sixth birthday. We have been counting down to the day for months. It is beyond my abilities as a writer to communicate just how vibratingly excited my second born has been in anticipation of the day. His maths has improved no end as he's mastered subtraction and the day has been built up in his mind to a day of birthday perfection. No pressure then. At six o'clock am precisely our bedroom door flew open and our newly minted six-year-old burst in followed seconds later by a slightly blurry-eyed older brother. <br /><br />Amidst the mass of wrapping paper covered presents was a blue camera from his great aunt Megan. From then on it was like being in bed with a Paparazzi, a blinding flash going off time and time again. Fortunately he was eventually distracted by a game for the Wii which required a retreat to the living room, although every step of the way was photographed and recorded for prosperity. All the time he was clutching a yellow furry thing called a Puffle which Matty had given him. <br /><br />Later that morning we found ourselves at Kidspace in Croyden, one of those indoor maze of climbing, rope, plastic and tunnels in garish colours that children vanish into to scream and chase and perform death-defying slides in foam encased safety. Eight of Sam's friends, plus Matty were in attendance for this much anticipated party. We had booked the party months ago and all we had to do was turn up with some children and a cake. The cake, Sam had specified, was to be in the form of a caterpillar with each segment a different colour and with each child's name written upon it. The staff at Kidspace were taking care of the rest, including the food, in the exclusive birthday party orientated Orange Pod. You will be unsurprised to know that I managed to find a table and a cup of coffee to retreat to.<br /><br />That evening we left the happily exhausted birthday boy in the loving care of Pam, his grandmother, and attended a quiz night at the school. As previously mentioned in these pages, I love quizzes and become insufferably competitive when partaking in one. For years I have competed in the school quiz and for years my team has come second. This year, unlike last, I was not suffering Oxygen deprivation and a lifetime of accumulated trivia came to the fore. Yes I knew what Dane Godtfred Kirk Christiansen gave the world in 1958. Where was the Magna Carta signed? Easy. Ha! Who was Queen Elizabeth II first prime-minister? Ask me something challenging. The chemical symbol for Potassium? Okay. Fortunately I was a member of a team who knew such things. They also knew such useful things as the number of dominoes in a set. By the time of the final round, general knowledge, it was neck and neck Which superhero's secret identity is Steve Rogers? If my facial muscles were capable of it a huge grin would has spread across my overly smug face. We had that round nailed. <br /><br />The final scores were totalled up and we, by the massive margin of 1 point, had snatched victory. At last my awesome talent had been recognised. As Polly and I wandered home, our victory bottles of wine clinking together, we considered that, all in all, it had been a pretty good day. <br /><br />Until next time. . . <br /><br />Answers – Lego. Runnymede. Winston Churchill. K. 28. Captain America.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-83190989329223490332010-05-05T12:38:00.000-07:002010-05-05T12:40:43.167-07:00Can He Talk?I took the boys to their trampoline lesson last Friday at our local leisure centre. The lesson is held in a vast, echoing hall with four trampolines in one corner and a couple of badminton courts scattered around. While the children await their turn for their one-to-one coaching they tend to run around the hall chasing a ball or playing tag, shrieking at a pitch that seems to resonate with the with the natural frequency of the hall and at a volume to make your ears bleed. <br /><br />In the course of this running around between bouncing Matty collided with another child and I looked up from my book to see him sitting on the floor nursing his left leg. A group of children had gathered round and one of the mothers had come over to check that there was not too much damage done. I put down my book and took up my parental responsibility and wheeled across the cavernous hall towards the group. As I approached I could see that Matty was going to live and I cancelled the explanation I'd mentally started rehearsing for Polly about how my eye had never left him. The mother looked up to assure me that there was no serious damage done. Just then a little boy said loudly and clearly, “ Mum, mum, I think that man wants something.” The mother replied “ Yes, he's come to check that Matty is okay.” The boy looked puzzled. “Why would he do that? “ The mother flashed me an apologetic smile. “Because he's Matty's daddy.” “Is he? What really?” The boy looked at me with open curiosity and then checked with his mother. “Are you sure?” “Yes,” hissed his mother looking at me and mouthing “Sorry.” The boy continued to look me over. “Can he talk?” I fixed him in the eye and said firmly, “Yes, he can.” “Oh,” said the boy, “that's all right then.” He then wandered off to play. His mother, obviously wishing the polished floor would open up beneath her, could only mouth “Sorry” again.<br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-52872359196886728672010-04-21T09:37:00.000-07:002010-04-22T15:23:16.229-07:00We'e All Going To The Zoo TogetherOn Monday we went to London Zoo and contrary to my pessimistic expectation it didn't rain. In fact the weather was rather nice. We went with our friend C and her son, Matty's friend from school, taking advantage of the way we could all fit into our car because C's husband, an airline pilot, is currently stuck in Washington because of the Icelandic volcano.(Every volcanic aeroplane death cloud has a silver lining, apparently.) <br /><br />London Zoo has changed since my youth. Gone are the elephants and Polar bears circling confined enclosures, going slowly mad. Instead the emphasis is on conservation with Gorilla Kingdoms and Rain Forest experiences. I particularly enjoyed the Night Life experience, which was not a disco but a chance to see all sorts of nocturnal creatures knocking about naturally. <br /><br />I am slightly suspicious that many of the terrariums in the reptile house were empty despite signs saying they contained a Taiwanese Spitting snake, a Borneo Bouncing lizard or a Completely Invisible Sleeping newt. Occasionally I did spot a snake but it might quite easily have been a rubber one from the zoo souvenir shop. Telling me how cunningly they used camouflage didn't fool me. <br /><br />Sam, having been to see the film How To Train Your Dragon was keen to see the Komodo dragons. He was disappointed to find they neither flew nor breathed fire but was slightly mollified when I told him how they could kill a buffalo. Matty found it difficult to choose a favourite animal, being torn between the giraffes and “those catty things with spots near the tigers.” <br /><br />It was a good final day of the school holidays. <br /><br />Until next time. . .Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-12455127597658965252010-04-18T12:42:00.000-07:002010-04-18T12:46:16.001-07:00The Easter BreakOkay, I admit it, I'm a bad blogger. I have failed to post anything new for what seems like an age. My excuse? It's the Easter school holidays and I have two ebullient boys to keep entertained. Oh, and it's been (mostly) sunny so I've been sitting in the garden reading and trying not to get sunburn.<br /><br />Last week we went for a picnic in Greenwich park to meet up with my aunt Megan. We picked up my nephews, the boys cousins Oscar and Ollie, on the way and arrived in time for lunch. Obviously the glorious weather we had been enjoying took a break and we ate our Scotch eggs and buffet style chicken pies in a light drizzle that slowly progressed to a torrential downpour. Fortunately I had my ultra-stylish wheelchair raincoat with me which Matty says makes me look like a toddler in a pushchair. At least I was dry. We took refuge in the fabulous Royal Observatory, enjoying the historical setting and the state of the art interactive displays before watching a show in the Planetarium. <br /><br />To help the boys burn off some energy we enrolled them both in an intensive trampoline course for the last week. Matty, in particular, has shown an aptitude for the sport and attained his grade 5 certificate. We have also replaced our broken tiny garden trampoline with a slightly bigger unbroken one. Even as I write Sam has just bounced off it to swing on the washing line in an attempt to create his own theme park ride. We will now need to buy a new rotary dryer.<br /><br />It was also this week that our washing machine chose to break down, making horrible grinding noises and refusing to perform its raison d'etre. We emptied our piggy bank and ordered a new one. It was then that our friends Catherine and Stuart told us that they had inherited a virtually brand new washing machine and it was sitting idle in their shed and would we like it. Would we ever. Stuart even came round and plumbed it in. This saved us a small fortune and we are very grateful. Now, has anyone got a fridge/freezer?<br /><br />Now as the holiday draws to a close, the boys have an inset day tomorrow so have one extra day off school. We are taking them to London zoo so you can expect it to rain.<br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-73972017730857557662010-03-31T03:43:00.000-07:002010-03-31T03:50:13.232-07:00A Mile In Their ShoesOn the 21st March Polly, Sam and Matty ran the Sports Relief Mile along the Embankment in London. It was something of a last minute affair, Polly only having signed up a couple of days before hand, so she only committed to raising £50 for the charity. They all ran the mile with ease, circumnavigating Eddie Izzard (who was running yet another full marathon), and completing it in about 10 minutes. (Polly insists they could have run it faster but there were too many baby buggies in the way.) <br /><br />Thank you to everyone who sponsored the three of them, we really appreciate your kindness, generosity and support The money goes to support important projects here in the UK and in some of the poorest countries in the world. You can find out more at <a href="http://www.sportrelief.com/">http://www.sportrelief.com/</a> and if you would like to retrospectively sponsor Polly and the boys you can at <a href="http://www.mysportrelief.com/dealboysrunning">http://www.mysportrelief.com/dealboysrunning</a> . I am delighted to announce that the total raised so far by the three of them is £380. . . so far. <br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-54454076544035208212010-03-24T08:59:00.000-07:002010-03-24T09:02:57.612-07:00Laser Death Pizza ExtravaganzaI have been to hell and it is in Croydon. All right, perhaps I exaggerate, but not a lot. On Saturday we had Matty's 10th birthday party which was held at the Laser Quest franchise in the Colonnades on The Purley Way. From the outside the building looks like a rather bland office block but inside it is designed to resemble a Mississippi steamboat, I kid you not. The steamboat illusion does not pass deep inspection and is soon revealed to be mostly a front for an extremely noisy amusement arcade replete with the latest shoot-'em-up games called things like Zombie Killer 4 and Death Jungle Zone 3. Each game comes with at least one machine gun and absolutely no volume control. Interspersed with the death dealing mayhem machines were driving games that gave very little consideration to the highway code called Death Racer VII or Mission Road Kill X or such like. Also dotted around the Stygian hall were several non-working pool and air-hockey tables serving primarily as surfaces for teenagers to lounge against and as anti-wheelchair obstacles. The thermostat was set to 'boil blood' level but they economised by having the lighting set at a level that required an infra-red night scope to see more than a few murky feet. Along one side of the arcade was the Laser Quest zone where groups of identical looking pre-teens loitered whilst awaiting their turn to dispense laser justice upon each other. <br /><br />Matty and his micro-army of 9 laser armed friends vanished into the kill-zone to enact Armageddon while I hunted vainly for a cup of coffee. Eventually I took refuge in the party room we had reserved and was at last able to have a conversation that did not require shouting over the death throes of machine gunned zombies. After an hour or so Matty's army retired from the battlefield to devour hot-dogs and relive successful ambushes. Oh to be 10 again. <br /><br />On Monday it was Matty's actual birthday and we took him (and Sam, obviously) out for tea. You put your taste-buds in the lap of the gods when you let a 10-year-old choose the restaurant you dine in, so it was with a sense of 'it could have been worse' that I trundled into Pizza Hut. I am not a huge fan of Pizza Hut so I was pleasantly surprised to find on the menu some relatively interesting looking Tuscani style pizzas. I settled on the Pollo Portobello with the “thinnest, lightest, crispiest pizza base” and “recipes inspired from the heart of Italy.” Perfecto! Unfortunately Matty had been swayed by the advertising that induced him to try a pizza surrounded by “a ring of 28 individual doughy bites bursting with cheese.“ Such a divine culinary experience only comes with pizzas the size of truck tyres and so he pleaded with me to share a vast meat-feast deep pan pizza. I closed my menu with a small sigh and said that I'd be delighted to share. It was his birthday after all and considering the years of pleasure he has given me it was a tiny sacrifice. As he sat, grinning from ear to ear, chewing on peperoni flavoured stringy bits, he thanked us for taking him out to 'a posh restaurant'. Is it any wonder I love him?<br /><br />PS - Only have the ring of 28 individual doughy bites bursting with cheese if you enjoy cheesy flavoured chewing gum. <br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-5115762711827387442010-03-15T07:33:00.000-07:002010-03-15T07:35:54.651-07:00Spring Is SpringingI feel a little as though I am coming out of hibernation. As the weather improves and the temperature slowly climbs I have been able to get out a little more. My mother came to visit and Polly and I took her for lunch at the local garden centre (rock n roll, hey). Then at the weekend I went to collect Sam from a party and also chased the boys around the park on the their bikes. (This took a while because Sam can only ride in a straight line and crashes dramatically at the slightest curve.)<br /><br />Both Polly and I are benefiting from me having the new BiPap mask. So far the alarm has not gone off once since my return from the Brompton. Getting a good nights sleep has had a reinvigorating effect; Polly has taken up running again. She has been looking through catalogues and trying to fathom which running outfit will not emphasize her bottom.<br /><br />I am pleased to report that my regular carer, Kolapo, has returned to work. He is much recovered from his injured back but is not going to be working 7 days a week any more. While he has been away we have had a series of other carers visiting. One of these was a very nice man called Balham. At the end of his stint with us Polly did what she had been dreading doing all week, as Balham departed she bid him farewell and wished him a good week saying, “Goodnight, Mitcham!” <br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-76873809511595572422010-03-06T04:33:00.000-08:002010-03-06T04:36:30.006-08:00The Boy In The BubbleOn Wednesday I was finally admitted to the Royal Brompton Hospital in London for them to try and address the problems I've been having with my blood gasses and with the BiPap alarm going off umpteen times a night. I was poked and prodded by a doctor who also (on the second attempt) took blood and analysed it. My CO2 levels are too high and as a result my blood is turning acidic, which is not as cool as it sounds. Time to take action before I turn into a blood-burning super-villain. <br /><br />I was given a room on Foulis ward with an en suite bathroom. Unfortunately the en suite bathroom was not wheelchair accessible. Not a problem I was assured, and a commode was wheeled in. Deep deep joy. The room came with a fully working TV and, to my relief, wi-fi internet connectivity. It was also alarmingly chilly. Polly closed the open window. <br /><br />The Brompton is a great hospital but no hospital is ideally suited to my needs. Three nurses spent nearly an hour getting me into bed that night. It was then that it was realised that the radiator wasn't working. Nurses piled blankets on me until I could no longer move at all. It was a very long, very cold night. <br /><br />When at last the morning came I was sleep deprived and shivering and not in the mood for what was to come. Four nurses took another hour to get me up, hoisted to the commode, discovered (I already knew this but it was a revelation to the nurses) that I cannot balance on a commode, and finally transferred to my wheelchair. I'll spare you the details of the indignity of the saga of getting my trousers on. Suffice to say that in the end we did it my way. <br /><br />Later we got to the heart of the reason I was there. Steve, the ventilator man, came to experiment on me. The problem, it appeared, was that the pressurised air was leaking, thus I was not getting the full benefit of the BiPap and also that the alarm was going off to alert me to this fact. The solution was a new mask. Steve was very excited, he had a radical new product to try. “It's a bit unusual,” he warned me. It was. Imagine a diving helmet crossed with a bin-liner held on to your head by padded straps that pass under your armpits to stop it blowing off. When I tried it, sitting in my wheelchair, it was an interesting experience, rather like being in your own person bubble (albeit a noisy one). Polly said I looked like Sandy the squirrel from Sponge Bob Squarepants. The problem started when they wanted me to try it lying down. When Steve came to fit it, with me balancing on the bed, I freaked out. The bubble became that plastic bag your mother told you not to put over your head when you were a child. I couldn't breathe, which considering its purpose was pretty ironic. <br /><br />Next we tried a mask which fitted into my mouth like a scuba divers breathing apparatus. This time the problem was that if you tried to speak or swallow the air was blasted under pressure into your stomach which blew up like a balloon. I lasted about 15 seconds. <br /><br />Finally Steve produced a variation of the nasal mask I already use. Bingo. I agreed to give this one a go that night. I was told a sleep study had been arranged for Saturday night to assess how effective the mask was going to be. The thought of another 3 nights of mobile hoists and commodes was too much. I begged Steve to bump me up the list and he surveyed my room and took mercy on me. He said he would slip me onto the end of the list for that nights tests. <br /><br />Getting to bed that night was a debacle.. The nurses were brilliant but I was exhausted and nothing went quite right. It seemed to take hours and I was at the point of taking out a contract on the life of whoever designed the mobile hoist I was being swung around on like a human conker. When, eventually, I was lying in approximately the right position, a technician came in and attached a probe to my earlobe. At least someone had come and mended the radiator and I only needed four blankets. The new mask worked beautifully though and the BiPap alarm didn't go off once. <br /><br />In the morning two nurses came to get me up. Half an hour later they went to get two more. Much much later the consultant came in with the results of the sleep test. (You know you are getting old when even the senior consultants look like they are fresh out of school.) I held my breath (so to speak) as he held up a print out and pointed to various lines tracing across the page. O2 saturation was at 100% all night. More significantly my CO2 levels remained consistently low throughout. “This,“ said the consultant, “is about as good as it gets. Excellent. You should begin to feel the effects over the next few days.” And with that I was released back into the wild. <br /><br />When Polly had come to visit me the previous day she had stopped in the corridor to stare briefly at one of the other patients. When she came into my room she said, “Isn't that. . . You know. . . Oh, thingumajig from that show. 1970s. . . American. Very famous.” I peeked out of my room and, do you know what, she was right. It was thingamy from that cop show. He was in a private room and got to drink coffee from a cafetiere rather than the instant muck I was served. From then on I couldn't get that gooey song he sang out of my head. <br /><br />I'm home now and have just had a good nights sleep. The BiPap alarm didn't go off once. Result. <br /><br />Until next time. . .Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-51999186826400260362010-03-01T06:04:00.000-08:002010-03-01T06:08:08.678-08:00Cometh The ManA few weeks ago we were assessed by a surveyor who came and told we have a condensation problem in out flat. We were aware of this because we had spotted the patch of black mold growing in the corner of our bedroom and behind various wardrobes. The surveyor, a nice woman, surveyed the BiPap, the electric bed, the air-mattress, the hoist, the wheelchair, the battery charger, the cough-assist machine and nebuliser, and explained that we have too much equipment in too small a space. The air, she said, could not circulate and we need more space. We are not, she said, adequately housed. Contact your MP (Member of Parliament), she advised. And, having exhausted other avenues and being very suggestible, that is exactly what we did. <br /><br />To that end, last week, we were visited by Tom Brake, Liberal Democrat Member of Parliament for Carshalton and Wallington at home. He came and drank a cup of tea, declined a plate of biscuits, discussed the forthcoming general election and listened attentively while we explained the situation. We showed him a folder full of letters from medical type people saying we need more space. We presented to him two growing children. We told him of some the problems we face on a day-to-day basis. We explained how the cramped conditions made it difficult for carers to work safely and how they had to squeeze past the end of the bed to perform their duties. Tom nodded in all the right places and said that although he could make no promises he would see what he could do.<br /><br />A few days later Tom sent us a letter summarizing our meeting. He asked us to grant authorisation to someone on the council to access our files and in addition to following up on our request for rehousing and, in the short term, a suitable hoist. made this rather surreal recommendation -<br /><br />“allocation of carers who are small enough to squeeze into the currently very confined space.”<br /><br />This is a splendid example of parliamentary lateral thinking. We don't really need larger accommodation we just need smaller people. Brilliant. It seems an odd thing to focus on but that's probably why I've never sought public office, I just don't have that capacity for problem solving.<br /><br />Obviously I will keep you informed of any progress. I'll also let you know if I see any signs of carer shrinkage.<br /><br />Until next time.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2439212863213673377.post-31640571569487027902010-02-22T12:51:00.000-08:002010-02-22T12:53:25.833-08:00BreakdownI had a breakdown in the bathroom early last week. It took three women to get me out of there. It all started when I was transferring from the toilet back to the wheelchair. The screen on the wheelchair controller flashed up a message informing me that there was a 'brake error 1301'. The wheelchair refused to move, ceasing to perform its primary function and becoming simply a chair. A chair located in the bathroom. The two carers and Polly manhandled the chair out of bathroom and into the living room by disengaging the motor and heaving and pushing the ungainly machine using brute force. Polly referred to the manual and looked up 'brake error 1301'. The manual helpfully told her that there was a problem with the brakes. Armed with this inciteful information Polly poked and pulled various wires and connections to no effect. Eventually she removed a panel on the back of the chair and prodded connectors hopefully. Suddenly the chair sprang back into life. The carers stood in open-mouthed appreciation of her technical abilities. Polly Deal, the 4th emergency service.<br /><br />I'm having problems writing at the moment which is why these posts are a bit short and a bit spaced out. Normal service will be resumed soon, I hope. Thanks for your patience.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01217547485242037222noreply@blogger.com0